One of my friends recently told me that his board decided NOT to replace his boss…so he’s got several more months without a leader. Another pal told me that her husband recently lost his job. It was a shock. And they’re not sure how to proceed.
Sometimes life pins us between the proverbial “rock” and “hard place.” But you’re not really stuck. We always have at least three options.
- You can try to influence the situation. My leaderless friend could go to a favorite board members and ask if it’s possible to appoint someone (maybe him) as an “interim director” because not having a leader is hard on the staff and hard on the organization. (Notice the pro move here, putting the organization first…?)
- You can change your response to the situation. Sometimes shit happens and we just react. You lose your job… and you panic. Someone pulls out in front of you on a busy road… and you scream at them. But if you pay closer attention, you’ll notice that there’s a moment between stimulus and response. A gap. And in that gap, you can choose how you’re going to respond. You get your pink slip and instead of instantly freaking out you think, “How could this be a blessing?” and you start putting together a new plan. Or someone cuts you off in traffic and you wonder, “What’s going on for them that they’re in such a hurry?” Maybe they just found out someone they love is in the hospital. Bottom line: you get to choose your response. Make it a wise one. It will fundamentally shift the energy you have for everything else.
- You can leave the situation. Yup, that’s right, if you can’t handle how things are going, you can exit. I’d try the first two approaches first, but the truth is: leaving can be the best option. You can look for a new job. You can leave a family function instead of staying silent. You can end a relationship.
See? Your back’s not really against the wall. You have options!